We all lose a loved one now and again. It is the circle of life. Knowing that we will all perish doesn’t make it any easier. Losing a loved one no matter the age or time of year is very difficult. Never getting a chance to say “I love you” again is hard to come to terms with. Taking the first step after losing a loved one is not easy but we all need to move forward and upwards.
Recently, I lost a loved one who I was extremely close to, my Grandma.
She was an inspiration to us all. If you knew her you loved her. She was a light to any room she entered. Her strength and positive outlook on life was contagious. She enjoyed life to the fullest.
I have also lost my cousin, brother, and dad. To say I have been through this many times is an understatement. Losing each of these family members is equally difficult but also different. Every loss is devastating. No one should ever compare losses.
During the first week my whole life stopped. I didn’t write. I didn’t engage in any social media. I didn’t connect with anyone. Instead, I dedicated every moment to my grandma. Whether it was sharing memories of her or comforting other family members.
If you have lost a loved one I want you to know that you will be able to move on.
It takes time but you will be able to take the steps needed to continue your life. The first step is the hardest but once you do time will help heal you and you will be able to take more steps toward the future. Our deceased loved ones want nothing more than for us to move on and continue making beautiful memories.
Look at your children tonight. Do this for them. Let them be your strength.
This picture of my 3 girls was taken after the funeral by my “Grandma’s Bridge.” I believe this picture is a good representation of what we need to do after losing a loved one. Move forward. Move upward. Take the first step.
The days, weeks or even years after losing a loved one can be trying but moving forward one step at a time is all we can do. Yes, sometimes we might not be the perfect mom, but as long as we are trying our best and loving our little ones then everything will work itself out.
Children are often the light that gets us through our days or weeks. Happiness exudes from them. We need to continue our life with our children. Love them. Laugh with them. They are the future, and the future must go on.